Playing on loop on my playlist (and also in my head)

is this song from 2007?

I must have heard it before, it's so familar...

Damn! I'm so outdated....

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To keep dwelling on how reality differs from your ideals; to remember times that you needed that someone (and perhaps told/did not tell the person) but that someone wasn't there; to keep in your heart the words that person (may have carelessly/thoughtlessly/accidentally) said that (unknowingly) cause hurt to you; to retain disappointments from past occasions; to live in the misunderstandings between the two of you;

in life it's easy to dwell on the disappointments, the imperfections, the losses-

but, really, is that the way you want to shape your life?

some people spend an entire lifetime trying,

but they can't seem to get things right.

to me at least, somehow, perhaps,

The secret to loving someone (for a good and long time) is to

be ready to cry (more than you'd like to),

appreciate every single sacrifice and gesture,

show understanding (more than you think possible),

and to love yourself even more than you had ever before.

it's not easy,

but it's achievable, I think.

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"love is a journey of mutual self-discovery"

i came up with it,

and i'm rather proud of that.

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why do people give themselves/their minds in to countless social norms/ media constructed ideals of the 'perfect' partner?

For girls the ideal is someone (hopefully significantly) taller (perhaps with broad shoulders).

To be specific, at one point of time I remember my female (and some male) schoolmates spread urban legend that if you want you rest comfortably on your boyfriend's shoulders, he should be (at least) 15cm taller than you are.

Utter rubbish. I had (though quite happily at that time) rested my head on the shoulders of boy I was fond of (at that time), and to my immense disappointment, found it not comfortable at all. Firstly it was because he was slouching in his seat, so the 15 cm (or more) height contrast did not make a difference at all. Second, I couldn't seem to find the right spot or 'ridge' in his shoulder that my head could rest on such that it wouldn't hurt.

For guys i suppose it would ideally be a girl who is smaller or shorter, so the guy can demonstrate his physical prowess/superiority to 'protect the smaller/weaker'.

Also utter rubbish (in my opinion). Imagine a massively tall guy dating a midget woman. Kissing would be virtually impossible (unless she sits on his lap all the time of course, which still wouldn't succeed unless she sits on a 5-10cm thick cushion)- either his neck would ache from bending down too much or her legs/toes would cramp up from trying to tip-toe/reach up all the time. Not the best of situations, really.

Ideals are ideals, but sometimes it's good to be realistic.

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"I guess they were right; you can't expect much out of giving too much love.

You'll just run out of it."

My sentiments/fear exactly.

but sometimes (if you're lucky) you get some back-

(though maybe not enough; not at the right time)

but sometimes,

it's enough to get by.