'wow. now you are telling me. and i'm supposed to be free just because im in charge of open house... i don't stay on campus or have the whole day free you know. anyway i can't make it today. but jxxx will be going in my place.'

okay. like i was really freaking pissed but i kept my cool and replied.
i decided it was time to be honest and tell her even though i didn't want things to be awkward in future since she is still in the committee and we'll be working together.

'hi, please try to understand im not trying to make things difficult for you but despite asking early you give very limited slots for meetings and always seem to not make it even though the rest of us have other commitments and try to make it. if you're busy i understand but honestly speaking i feel neither interest nor commitment from your side.'



and then,
ta-da!

her reply.

'if i appear to be such an irresponsible person to you then i have nothing to say as wel. in any case, whether i agree w you or not, thank you for your feedback.'

at this point of time,
i felt like burying my head in some pithole somewhere because i really didn't/don't know what to do.


i always knew i was asking for it when i ran for president.

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how do you deal with somebody who shows lack of commitment and interest in his/her responsibilities/duties but doesn't seem to think so?

hello,
i can understand if you're busy and have 234898765434567 things to do, 237898765434543 places to be in, but it's the same for all of us, right? the same for the rest of the 7 of us in the committee. not like i'm super free or anything.
and it's not like i didn't ask you before; i asked you if you were able to take up the responsibility for open house because i felt it was suitable as your role is IT/publicity and definitely openhouse falls under that category. if you were busy or had 943578 things to do you could have nicely rejected and i could have [from the start] allocated it to xxx or yyy who are both enthusiastic and committed to their jobs/doing extra outside of their job.

i call for a committee meeting not because i have too much time on my hands, or i like to torture you guys and waste your time; but because i feel planning the semester's events and deciding certain decisions should be a committee-based thing, and i value everyone's input. if i didn't give a damn i would just make the decisions myself with sxx or nxxx right?
and why i say i feel there is lack of commitment and interest on your side?

certainly i believe i have good reason to say so.
cause whenever there is a new event/responsibility that look like you could be the right person to handle it, you always give the 'what a drag' face and sound like you really aren't interested at all. [okay maybe that's me being biased but it was clearly written on your face and i believe that other people would have felt the same] and when we try to schedule a time for committee meetings, you give the fewest available time slots [what, 1 or 2 timings a week?] even if we ask like WAY beforehand [though i do admit earlier meetings were more rushed and last minute]. and then you say you're busy with all kinds of stuff. if it's a comm meeting i hope everyone to be there. and it's like EVERYONE but you can make it. for like n slots. where n is a reasonably large number.
what particularly pissed me off was once you missed a comm meeting because you had an 'appointment with sister'....

it's not like the rest of us don't have commitments okay.
church, dance classes outside, other ccas/sports, homework, tutorials, hall events etc.

i guess if you couldn't/didn't want to be committed from the start,
you shouldn't have run for the position,
because the others really deserve much better than you,
from their level of enthusiasm and commitment towards both admin/publicity/training related matters.

am i not being understanding enough?
am i asking for too much from your side?
i really....



what a timely event.
cause i just received the email with the template,
asking me to evaluate my members and give them cca points accordingly.

sigh.

all this just makes me want to go on a holiday even more.