"Some people spend a good part of their lives worrying that someday they would be betrayed by the ones dear to them; they fear that they would no longer be loved, valued; they live in constant doubt of any value of themselves, feeling inferior to others, with a perennial doubt plaguing their lives-

but Why doubt? Why fear?

Why worry on the uncertain, why focus on the unknown?

Put your efforts elsewhere, put every single bout of energy, every last bit of your strength into becoming someone better, stronger, smarter, prettier.

Someone who would charm every individual in the crowd;

someone who would turn every head in the room;

Make them never want to leave you;

Make them never think that thought.

and even if suppose he/she/they really chose to leave,

make it such that it would make them regret for life.

become someone irresistible."

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opportunity cost.

the thing about life/time/things is that there lies the central problem of economics, scarcity.

There are an unlimited amount of things that we want to do, but only limited resources (time, effort, money) that we can expend on trying to achieve these things, and thus arises the concept of opportunity cost.

If instead of going to watch a movie with A, I decide to stay in and talk with B, is my time more well-spent? is spending $500 on a pair of Ferragamos more satisfying, or spending $50 on 2 pairs of brandless shoes and saving the rest? If I marry girl B, that means I can no longer marry girl A (unless I am Muslim and live in Malaysia but that's not the point), is that what i really want?-

Committing oneself to one thing/task/person at one time potentially means that your availability is drastically reduced for other potential things/tasks/people,

so is that commitment worthwhile?

a question we have to ask ourselves,

all the time.

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天天（在）学习。

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I know the reason why,

but I can't find fault,

I can't bring myself to say it-

I suppose some things would remain as they are.

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it's not that I'm cold and/or unfeeling-

anyone who (truly) knows me would deny that vehemently;

Hot-blooded, irrational, emotional, impulsive, work based on gut feeling-

these are more apt descriptions of the true personality that lies beneath the surface.

it's just that, looking back, reflecting on his advice, I think it's better-

better if I could (successfully) become that way,

it's in my better judgement, for my own good;

being like that is better-

it's better for myself this way.